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his wicked principles into them, and to blow up the corruption of their nacures, and hurry them on in waies leading down to endlesse perdition. And what a fad account will chose Parents give to God, who have neglected their duty in this kinde, suffering their children to remain almoft as rude and ignorant, and unacquainted with the principles of Christian Religion, and their duty 10 God and man, as if chey had been born among Pagans and Infidels ??
III. A Third duty of Parents is, To bleß their children, and that 1. By their prayers. They should by daily and carneft prayers commend them to Gods favour and bleßing; craving all peedfull mersies, both temporal and spiritual for them. Children of many prayers seldom miscarry. 2. By labouring to be such persons themselves, (io truly Religious) thar a bießing may defcend from them on their pofterity. This is frequenciy promifed in the Scriptore.co Godly men, That their feed shall be blessed. The beft-course any Parents can iake to intaila blessing on their children, is to betruly gracious themselves a
IV. They ought co set them a good example, else all cheir precepts and counsels will do no good. How many parents are chere, that by their wic ked conversations
, do corrupt and deprave cheir own children. This confideration lajes a most strict tie and obligation upon all Parents, co lead bor holy and religious life; else they do not only
hazzad their own souls, but indanger their childrens also; And what an inhumane cruelty is Sthat?
: They must watch over ibem, and by a prudent discipline govern them, and guard their education. 1. Encouraging then when they do
well, and winning them by love, and a fait and kind carriage, thac they may delight to do their duties. Some Parents by too much austerity and barloneffe, and a rigorous use of their parentall antbority, provoke and exasperate their children, so that they dread coming into their presence, and have na beart to Study to please them, seeing
they will afford them no countenance. This is contrary to what the Apostle prescribes, Col.3.21. Parents provoké not your children to wrath, &c. 2) If:fair means, perswafions, and encouragements will not prevail, nor make them mind their duties, then another course must be taken. Sober, yet sharp reproof must be used: If what fail too, then correction becomes necessary. For in this case, as Solomon faies, He that pareth his webweth his fon, Prov.1 3.24. "'Tis a cruell and foolish fondnejle-to spare stripes, when all other means have been unsuccessfull. But this correctiDa fhould be 1. Timely, before children have been suffered to run on so long, that they have
a habit to evil, and have contracted a ftuba borsefe of wil. 2. Moderate; not exceeding che quality of the fault, nor the tenderneffe of the
child. 3. Not inflicted in anger,for then the Child - will think he is corrected not so much for bis fault, as because his Father is angry. He must
cherefore be made sensible of his fault, shewed the evil and danger of it, and directed how to amend it, and this is the way. ( wich Gods blessing ) co reform him.
VI. They must maintain them, and allow them a competency (according to their eftates) for their comfortable subsistence. Some Parents
are of such a covetous. humour, chey cannot abide (to part with any thing (almost) as long as they dive. And thereby, I. Leffen cheir Childrens
Affe&tion towards them, fochat some have proceeded so far , as to wish tlieir Parents death; Which, though it be such a horrible sin, as no provocation from a Parene can excufe in a child, yer 'iis also a fault in a Parent co give such a temptatiox. 2. Ic puts them upon Mifts, and fhurking tricks, to maintain chemselves, and acquaints them with bad company, and makes them surfelt the fooner, when they come to their eftates. 3. -The Parents hereby Voofe chac con textment which they might have, in seeing cheir Children live prosperously and comfortably, which is such a joy and contextment, char none but 3 Miser, or Earth-worm would exchange for that poor pleasure of having Money, in the Cheft.
Vil. They must provide fome good and benefi profession or some fic way of employment for chem, tbac so they may be serviceable in their generatior to God and the World, and may avoid Idlenes that great snare of the Devil.
VIII. 'They must lay ap for them, and provide for them as God shall give means, as 'cis, 2.Cor.12.14. - The children ought not to lay wp for the Parents, but the Parents for the children. But let the Parent be careful to get that wealth honestly, which he makes his childes portion, lest a.cu se go along with it. Let him satisfie himself to make such provisions for his children, as God Thall enable șim bonefly. to make. A little honestly got being better than great riches gotten unjustly and unrighteoufly, Prov.16.8. Better is a little with righteousnelles than great revenues without righi.
IX. And lastly, they must command then only lawful and reasonable things ; usiog their power and authority over them with equity and moderation, and with a gentle band. In all things of moment they require of them, let them confider the real good and benefit of their children, (and guide themselves by thai) and not meerly their own advantage or pleasure, or the exercise of their own authority. This is a Rule ( as one faies well) whereof Parents may often have use ; but espe. eially in the busineffe of marrying their children wherein many Parents out of a covetous humour co bestow them wealthily, have forc'd them to marry. against their inclinations, and wbere they could not love ( which is a horrible Tyranny) and there by have betrayed them to infinite mischiefs, such as all the wealth io the world cannot repair. Thereare two things therefore (laies the fame Author) that Parents
, oughc especially co consider in the matching of their children. T. That they may live Christianh, and to that purpose to chuse a pious and verinous person to link chem wich, thac may noc be like to hinder but to further chem on in the pay 10. Heaven: This ought principally ( and above all other things ). co be minded. 2. That chey may live comfortably and cheerfully in this world. And to that evd, though a compe: tency of estate may be necessary to be regarded, yet surely abundance is not requisite ; and therefore that should not be too vehemently sought after. That which much more cends to the happimeß of that State is the mutual kindnese and liking of the parties ; without which, marriage is (of all other ) the most uncomfortable condition; therefore no Parent ought to force a child into it.
Epb.6 4. And, ye fathers, provoke not your chil
dren to wrath: but bring them up in the sur
iwe and admonition of the Lord. Col.3.21. Fathers provoke not your children to
anger lest shey be discouraged. 2 Cor.12.14.--- For the children osght not to lay
up for the Parents, but the Parents for she children.