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roughnesse, and such tyrannical carriage is utterly unallowable on the Husbands part cowards his Wife.
4: 'Tis pure. Noc for base and finifter ends : He does nor love himself because he is a healthy man, a handsom man,
a rich ly himself (because 'ris himself) thac he loves. Such oughe a mans love to his wife to be ; noc only because she is fair, or rich, or young; buc because she is his wife
. A man may look abroad in the world, and see others healtbier, handsomer, richer, wittier than himself; yet (I hope), he does not thereupon fall in love with them, and fight and neglect himself: So as man is to love his wife purely for this reason, because she is his wife. Though he is not bound to think her che best accomplished woman in the world, yet he is to love her, like her, delight in her more than any woman in the world.
So much for the first Duty che man owes to his Wife, Love, and the degree of ir.
II. The next is Instruction. The Husband is to instruct the wife in the chings that concern her everlasting welfare, if she be ignorant of them. Thus Paul bids the wives learn of their husbands at home, 1 Cor.14.35. Which supposes the Huse band is to teach her. This shou'd make men careful to get knowledge themselves, that so they may perform this duty they owe to others. III. Maintenance. He is to maintain her, pro
vide for her, and allow her things convenient and fit according to his estate, and to let her para take with him in those ontward good things wherewith God hach blessed him : And as he is not by niggardize, to deny her what is fit for her, so neither muft he by his unthrifiinelle walt his goods, and so make himself unable to support her; if Gud take him away before her, he is to provide for her comfortable subsistence (according to his ability) and not to beat her when he is dead ( as one phrases ic) by leaving her an inSufficient and too short an allowance.
I come now to speak of the Duties of the Wife.
The Wife owes to her Husband,
1. Subjection, Eph.5.22. Wives subroit your selves unto your own husbands as unto the Lord. Col 3.18. Wives submit your selves unto your own husbands as it is fit in the Lord. i Pet.3.1. Likewise ye wives be in subjection to your own husbands, &c. V.5. - Being in subjection to their own busbands.
Besides chese Scripture-Commands there are several reasons for it. 1. From the Creation.
1. The man was first created, 1 Tim.2.13. Adam was first formed, then Eve.
2. The woman was made of the map, and not the man of the woman, 1 Cor.11.8.For the man is not of ihe woman, but the woman of the
3. The woman was made for the man, not the man for the woman, Gen. 2.18. And the Lord God said, it is not good that the man fhould be alone; I will make him an help meet for him.
4. Nature it self proclaims it in respect of the sex ; the female being inferiour to the male. Man is the image and Glory of God, and
the woman is the glory of the man, 1 Cor. 2. From the Transgression. For the woman though the latter in Creation, yet was the former in transgreffion, Gen.3.6. And when the woman saw that the tree was good for food, and that it was pleasant to the eies, and a tree to be defired, to make one wise, the cook of the fruit thereof, and did eat, and gave also unto her husband with her, and he did eat, v.12. And the man said, the woman whom thou gavest to be with me, the gave me of the tree, and I did eat, 1 Tim.2.14. Adam was not deceived (i. e. first, and by Sacan) best the woman being deceived, was in i be trang gression : not only finning her self, but drawing her husband into transgression allo.
3. From the titles of head and guide given to the husband in the Scriptures, which declare him to be the Superiour, 1 Cor. 11. 3.--Tbe head of the woman is the man, - Eph. 5, 23. For the Hasband is the head of the Wife, even as Christ is the head of the Church – Prov.2.17. Whichforsaketh
she guide of her youth, and forgetteth the Covenant of her God.
II. Reverence. Eph. 5.33. Let the wife fier that the reverence her husband. Reverence is a mixture of love and fear.
1. The wife muft intirely love her husband, Tic.3.4. And defire to do him good and not hurt all the daies of her life, Prov. 31.12. Love must sweeten her whole behaviour towards him. And this love must proceed from a due eftimation of him, as her Head and Guide. Fudgment 'tis the fourse and spring of affection. What the mind esteems nor, the heart affects not. That which we highly prize, we dearly value. And if the wife truly esteem her husband, her carriage and behaviour towards him will be with all fwocetness, amiablenesse, and dwe respect and regard.
2. She ought to fear (not with a fervile, flao vifh, but a liberal, free, ingenuous fear; like that true Converts bear to God, springing from love, and joyn'd with love) least the give him any just occasion of displeasure and discontent, 1 Cor.7.34. — The unmarried woman careth for . the things of the Lord, that she may be holy, both in body, and in Spirit ; but the that is married, Careth for the world, how she may please her huse
III. obedience, 1 Cor. 14. 34. The Apostle te's us, women are commanded to be under obedience, as alfo faith the Lam. What Law? Why,
Gen.3.16. Thy desire shall be tothy husband, and he hill rule over thee. Also, Tic. 2. 5. To be discreet, chast, keepers at home, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the Word of God be not blafphemed. And in 1 Pet. 3.6. Sarah is pro pounded as their pattern, Even as Sarah obeyed Abraham, &c. B.sc what kind of obedience is it the wife is to render co the Husband? The Apostle tels us, Col.3.18. Wives submit your selves to your own husbands, as it is fit in the Lord. Which hints to us these two things,
in It must be done in obedience to God; to the Commandment and che Ordinámce of God. Ic must be a religiou, conscientious submission, A Heathen woman may do all the outward duties of a good wife, for ber credit sake, or peace a home, or from principles of natural honesty. But a'Christian woman besides these mocives, should do it out of Conscience to Gods Command, out of a desire to please God, and to approve her heart 10 him, as into the Lord, as che Apostle speaks, Eph.5.22. Having a refpe&t co the precepe and enjoynment of Christ. This may take
may take away that common objection of some women, if my busband do not his duty to me, Why should I do mine to him? His faultinefse and negleet of his duty, will 1200 excuse chy nox. performance of thine. For thou owest this duty, not only and principally co him, bue to the Lord ( who requires ic of thee) whe. ther thy husband de his or no. And further, the