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MARRIAGE has many pains, but celibacy no pleasures.
Prince of Abyssinia, p. 158. The infelicities of marriage are not to be urged against its institution, as the miseries of life prove equally, that life cannot be the gift of heaven.
Ibid. p. 169. Marriage is not commonly unhappy, but as life is unhappy, and inost of those who complain of connubial miseries, have as much satisfaction as their natures would have admitted, or their conduct procured, in any other condition,
'Rambler, vol. 2, p. 272. When we see the avaricious and crafty taking companions to their tables and their beds, without any inquiry but after farms and money, or the giddy and thoughtless uniting themselves for life to those whom they have only seen by the light of tapers; when parents make articles for children without enquiring after their consent; when some marry for heirs to disappoint their brothers, and others throw themselves into the arms of those whom they do not love, because they have found themselves rejected where they were more solicitous lo please; when some marry because their servants cheat them; some because they squander their own money; some because their houses are pestered with company; soine because they will live like other people; and some because they are sick of themselves; we
are not so much inclined to wonder that marriage is sometimes unhappy, as that it appears so little loaded with calamity; and cannot but conclude, that society has something in itself eminently agreeable to human nature, when we find its pleasures so great, that even the ill choice of a companion can hardly over-balance them. - Those, therefore, of the above description, who rail against matrimony, should be informed, that they are neither to wonder nor repine, that a contract begun on such principles bas ended in disappointment.
Ibid. p. 274 & 276.
Men generally pass the first weeks of, matrimony like those who consider themselves as taking the last draught of pleasure, and resolve not 10 quit the bowl without a' surfeit. .. .
.: : Toid. vol. 4, p. 41.
Marriage should be considered as the most so. 1 lemn league of perpetual friendship; a state from : which artifice and concealıhent are to be banishi ed for ever; and in which every act of dissimu- : lation is a breach of faith.
Ibid. p. 43.
A poet may praise many whom he would be afraid to marry; and, perhaps, marry one whom he would have been ashamed to praise. Many qualities contribute to domestic happiness, upon which poetry has no colours to bestow; and many airs and sallies may delight imagination, which he who flatters them never can approve. There are charms made only for distant admiration -- no spectacle is nobler than a blaze. ..
Life of Waller. ;
It is not likely that the married-state is, emia. nensly, miserable; since we see such numbers, whoin the death of their partners, has set free from its enter it again.
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Rambler, vol To P: ?73:
The happiness of some marriages are celebrated by their neighbours, because the married couple happen to grow rich by parsimony, to keep quiet by insensibility, and agree to eat and sleep together. dat wees is 'n' . ritinu
vid Ibid. vol. 42, P.142. A certain dissimilitude of habitudes and sentiments, as leaves each some peculiar advantages, and affords that concordia discors, that suitable disagreement, is always necessary to happy marriages. Such reasonings, though often formed upon different views, terminate generally in the saine conclusion. Such thoughts, like rivulets issuing fom distant springs, are each; inspregnated in its course with various mixtures, and tinged by infusions 'ynknown to the other, yet, • at last, easyly, unite into one stream, and purily theinselves by the gentle effervescence of contraryi qualities.
Ibid. p. 43. To die with husbands, or to live without them, · are the two extremes which the prudence and
moderation of European ladies have in all ages · equally declined. - S
11! " , w Ibid. vol. 2, p. 198. Most people marry upon mingled motives, between.convenience and inclination.,
Life of Sir T. Browne, p. 262.
^ EARLY MARRIAGES. - Lyn'; From early marriages proceeds the rivalry of parents and children. The son is eager to enjoy the world before the father is willing to forsake it, and there is hardly room at once for two generations. The daughter begins to bloom before the mother can be content to fade; and neither can forbear to wish for the absence of the other.
Prince of Abyssinia, p. 173.
LATE MARRIAGES. Those who marry late in life will find it dangerous to suspend iheir fate upon each other, at a time when opinions are fixed and habits are established; when friendships have been colle tracted on both sides; when life has been planned into method, and the mind has long enjoyed the contemplation of its own prospects. They will probably escape the encroachment of their children; but, in dininution of this advantage, they will be likely to leave them, ignorant and helpless, to a guardian's nrercy; or if that should not happen, they must, at least, go out of the world before they see those whoin they love best, either wise or great. From their children, if they have less to fear, they have also less to hope ;., and they lose, without equivalent, the joys of early love, and the convenience of uniting with manners pliant, and minds susceptible of new impressions, which might wear away their dissimilitudes by long cohabitation, as soft bodies, by continual attrition, conform their surfaces to each other,
ecc. in , so Ibid. p. 175 & 177. ;
COMPARISON BETWEEN EARLY AND LATE ļ, .
MARRIAGES. It will be generally found, that those who marry late are best pleased with their children; and those who marry early, with their partners.
. ; Ibid. p. 178.
MALICE. ..' . We should not despise the malice of the weakest. We should remember, that venom supplies the want of strength; and that the lion may perish by the puncture of an asp.
ii Rambler, vol 4, p. 163. The natural discontent of inferiority will seldom fail lo operate,' in some degree of malice; against him who professes to superintend the eonduct of others, especially if he seats himself üncalled in the chair of judicature, and exercises buthority by his own commission. .
. s. . Idler, vol. I, p. 97. : ; : - MAN. 5. Man's study of himself, and the knowledge of his own station in the ranks of being, and his various relations to the innumerable multitudes which surround him, and with which his Maker has ordained him to be united, for the reception and communication of happiness, should begin with the first glimpse of reason, and only end with life itself. Other acquisitions are 'merely tcmporary benefits, except as they contribute to illustrate the knowledge, and confirm the practice, of morality and piety, which extend their influence beyond the grave, and increase our happiness through endless duration.
Preface to the Preceptor,.p. 75.